An older man dating a younger woman has always been a cliché. The way that the media has stereotyped this kind of relationship has caused it to become much more acceptable. In fact, it has now become a trend. We see younger women with powerful men in politics, in Hollywood, and even in the lives of ordinary men.
Although older men used to be perceived as “sugar daddies” or “perverts,” many women still want to date them and are even hoping to tie the knot with one someday. Older men, on the other hand, may prefer to date younger women because of the feeling of pride. They become more accomplished having a beautiful and young woman around them. To some extent, however, these reasons can be superficial, but believe it or not, you can certainly find love flourishing within this kind of relationship.
Reasons Why An Older Man Want To Date A Younger Woman And Vice Versa
Older men are just like any other men who may also feel insecure and unwanted. Because of this, they believe that if they can hook up with a hot young chick, then they will feel less unattractive. Their ego and sexual drive boost up and the feeling of being young once again flourishes.
Studies show that most men ages 40 and above would prefer to date younger women with a 15- to 20-year age gap to theirs. When asked why, they say that their past relationships may have been too uptight. Younger women are more adventurous, fun, caring, loving, and submissive. Some of these older men have undergone stressful relationships with their ex-girlfriends or ex-wife and are now more hopeful about finding a relationship that is more positive and peaceful.
Furthermore, older men find younger women more inexperienced with life. This gives them a feeling of power over them. Being the man who can make the decisions for the two of them can give them a big sense of superiority and satisfaction.
Young women, on the contrary, see more valuable reasons for dating an older man. One reason is due to security. They find older men are more financially stable. They may have businesses of their own, have better social stature in life, and are more responsible and mature with decision-making. Young women who may have previously dated men within their age group may not be able to help but compare all these aspects.
Young women also find less competition with older men. More so, older men may be less inclined to cheat when they date a younger woman. Young women may chase after sports jocks and young bachelors, but because both parties are more immature or inexperienced, differences and conflicts may often arise. Relationships with older men can bring more emotional stability.
Problems That May Arise And How To Solve Them
Problems are inevitable with any relationship, even with older man to a younger woman. However, most problems come with solutions, many of them being simple to follow.
The first problem to consider is the relationship’s emotional status. One mistake older men face is the notion that younger women are more emotionally stable; that they have fewer hang ups in life, less experience with heart breaks, and fewer unstable hormones. However, believe it or not, emotional stability is not more prevalent in any one age group. More so, younger women tend to be more clingy and insecure, so unless their older partner is already experienced dealing with these kinds of dilemmas, a relationship of this sort may not work.
Another is that younger women tend to have higher standards. Yes, they may go after men who have fatter wallets, but there may be more to it. They also like men who look good to be with, who may be more trendy with the latest fashions and high-tech gadgets. Older men may prefer more classic fashions, which can be a big issue. So, if you are really into younger women, it would best to look into their standards and expectations before jumping into any relationship.
Furthermore, most young women may still want to experience all the best in their lives. They may be into night clubbing, adventurous sports or activities, or going to many social parties. Their older partners may not be able to accompany them with any of these because of a different energy level or for various health reasons. It is advisable for older men to be extra understanding, unless you want to play “dad” all the time.
This relationship also faces the scrutiny of others. Common and more acceptable as it may be, there may still be close friends or family members that will oppose of the relationship. If the relationship isn’t serious, it may be advisable not to involve her in family gatherings or become too close with her closest friends. But, if you believe this may be for keeps, then do everything to please and understand everyone that surrounds her.
Of course, the most obvious reason why this kind of relationship may fail is if the women go for older men with the wrong reasons. If the man is not fully aware of this and is always hoping for the best, then it may be too late for them to actually have a happy ending. Likewise, they must go for the relationship with the right reasons. If they are only in it for the sex, stature, and power, then there will be no lasting love for them in this situation.
Tips For Dating A Younger Woman
For men who want to successfully date a young woman, these are simple tips to follow. The first is to remove their stereotype mindset. You need to dispel the mindset that an older man dating a younger woman is deviant. During your dating stage don’t initiate intimacy right away. You want to come across respectful and loving, not creepy. A relationship compatibility reading may provide great insight on the best way to proceed with your relationship.
Another thing you will want to do is stay humble. Though you may have acquired a lot of achievements or have reached a high stature in life, stay grounded. You don’t want your woman to be afraid of or intimidated by you. Instead, be more fun, accommodating, and interestingly irresistible with other aspects. This way, they can be more comfortable and relaxed when you are around. A personal astrology reading might help you better understand yourself.
Lastly, don’t push things too soon. Even if you like her very much and may feel that you are ready for wedding bells, give her the chance to live her life and enjoy it to their fullest. Also, allow for enough time to really get to know each other. Know her inner thoughts and feelings. Older men may be more experienced in knowing what they want in a relationship and what is best for themselves because of past mistakes.
A younger woman may need a little more time to discover what is best for them. If you are really serious, be ready to put in the time and effort getting knowing her family and friends. Then, and only then, can you decide if this is a relationship that can proceed towards marriage.